Oct. 15, 2025

From Panic to Power: The 90-Second Rule for Handling Haters

From Panic to Power: The 90-Second Rule for Handling Haters
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When the internet comes for you, your instinct is to fight back or disappear. Neither helps. In this episode, Molly breaks down her simple, proven 90-second rule for handling online hate without losing your cool or your credibility.

You’ll learn:

  • Why outrage online is a revolving door (and why it’s never really about you).
  • How to recognize when your brain has flipped into fight-or-flight mode—and what to do about it.
  • The golden rule of when not to apologize (and where to respond instead).
  • How to move from panic to power in less time than it takes to make a cup of coffee.

If you’ve ever dealt with critics, trolls, or just plain mean people online, this one’s for you.

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00:00 - Webinar Invitation: Crisis First Hour

01:01 - Introducing the 90-Second Rule

01:29 - When This Rule Applies

01:54 - Step One: It’s A Cycle

02:06 - Step Two: Blame The Algorithm

02:22 - Step Three: Reclaim Your Brain

02:49 - The Golden Rule: Don’t Apologize There

03:08 - Final Shift: From Panic To Power

03:32 - Closing & Sign-off

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I want to start this episode with a quick invitation.

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I'm hosting a free webinar called The First Hour: How to Respond to Any Crisis Before It Spirals.

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Because here's the truth.

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When a crisis breaks, the clock starts ticking.

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And what you do in those first 60 minutes will either calm the storm or pour gas on it.

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In this session, I will walk you through a proven framework for managing that critical first hour.

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You'll learn the three steps every communicator must take immediately.

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The biggest mistakes people make that tank trust and how to draft a holding statement in minutes instead of hours.

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And finally, why speed and clarity matter more than being perfect.

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These are the strategies and tactics I use with my clients.

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I am holding two sessions on October 22nd at 12 p.m.

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and 3 p.m.

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Eastern, and a third session on October 23rd at 1 p.m.

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Eastern.

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Spots are limited, so grab yours now.

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I'll drop the link in the show notes.

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All right, now let's get to today's episode.

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Today I want to give you my 90-second rule for handling haters online.

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The people who come at you pile on and try to hijack your peace of mind.

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I know.

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90 seconds.

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This is going to be a quickie.

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Ready?

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The rule is simple.

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Imagine you're a brand online, or maybe you own a business online, and all of a sudden the haters are coming for you.

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Caveat.

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This is if you didn't do anything wrong.

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Sometimes people say things or reduce things, or there's something in our business practice that we could have done differently.

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In that case, you need to do a whole different set of rules.

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This 90-second rule is just for handling the haters, just the people who come at you when it's not warranted.

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All right?

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Ready?

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Set your watch.

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Here we go.

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Step one, remember you're not the first and you won't be the last.

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Online outrage is a revolving door.

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People come for you and then they'll move on to the next target.

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Don't take it personally.

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It's a cycle.

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Step two, know your real enemy.

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It's not the person leaving comments, it's the algorithm.

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The algorithm thrives on outrage.

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It wants you rattled, defensive, and reactive.

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Your job is to outsmart it.

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Don't feed it.

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Step three, reclaim your brain.

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When haters attack you when you read all the comments, your amygdala in your brain fires up.

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That's your fight or flight response.

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And it clouds your judgment.

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The fix, pause, breathe, call someone you trust, give your rational mind a chance to catch up before you hit post or make that next decision, which could be a bad decision.

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And here's my golden rule: don't post an apology video on the same platform where you're being attacked.

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Many times you don't need to apologize.

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That's like throwing blood into shark-infested waters.

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If you truly need to clarify, do it somewhere else, your podcast, Facebook, or even a live interview.

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And if you really haven't done anything wrong at all and it's just a coordinated smear, ignore it, but keep an eye on it.

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You can respond indirectly, on your own terms, and in your own space.

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There it is, 90 seconds.

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That's all it takes to shift from panic to power.

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Forget the haters, outsmart the algorithm, and keep moving forward.

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That's all for this week on the podcast.

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Thanks so much for listening.

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Ignore them.

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Bye for now.